You have probably heard that divorce takes a serious toll on children. You may worry about your own kids and how they will make it through your divorce. This often becomes a very stressful aspect of the situation for parents, but it does not have to be. If you and your spouse both only want what is best for your children, then you can find a way to ensure they remain happy and minimalize the effects of the divorce on them.
Psychology Today explains that as parents, you need to put your children first. You also need to treat them like children. Avoid putting them in the middle of the issues you have with each other. They should not have to listen to anything negative about the other parent or hear details of the divorce. These are things you can talk about with friends or other people close to you.
You and your ex-spouse need to create a plan to co-parent effectively. Put aside disagreements and anything else negative between you when discussing the children and working together to parent the children. Make sure that you both stay involved with your kids’ lives. Keep things as routine and stable as possible.
Above all, just keep loving and parenting your children. Nothing with your children needs to change because you got a divorce. You can still parent together. You will just have to adjust for the new structure of your family.
It might help to know that recent research shows most kids do not have lasting issues due to their parents divorcing. That means you can raise happy kids as long as you make it a priority.