Make no mistake, going through the divorce process is difficult on all levels – financially, emotionally and even spiritually. One of the toughest decisions you can ever make while your divorce is underway is whether you should leave before the process is finalized or not.
Living under the same roof with a person that you no longer love can be a daunting task. However, if you make the decision to live together with your future-ex during the divorce process, you need to set some ground rules.
1. Set clear boundaries
The importance of clear boundaries during the divorce process cannot be overstated. Sharing the same bedroom with your spouse is definitely not acceptable during this time. There can also be no sexual intimacy, as this could lead to a pregnancy, which can complicate and delay your divorce — so keep sleeping arrangements separate.
Besides having separate bedrooms, agree on how you will share common areas like the kitchen, washrooms and living room. You also need to set boundaries about electronics, mail and other things that once might have been shared.
2. Take control of your emotions
Sharing a living space with someone you no longer like (and possibly loathe) is bound to wear you down, emotionally speaking. Reigning in your emotions can help you keep a clear head and maintain your composure during those difficult times. Take care of yourself, eat well, get enough sleep and avoid any practice that can hurt your overall well-being. And if you feel you need help, do not hesitate to see a therapist.
The decision to leave the marital home or not while the divorce is underway is entirely yours to make. Learning more about Tennessee divorce laws can help you safeguard your rights and interests during and after the divorce process.